My son is 5 years old, so he knows a lot about good toys. My wife is an occupational therapist, a Montessori teacher for 3-6 year olds, and a supermom, so she knows a lot about toys that are good for learning. These are toys they both agree are great. Some are standards, but many are probably not obvious for 3-6 year olds.

Computer

OLPC XO laptop

OLPC XO Laptop

Until November 26, in North America you can order an XO laptop for your child and one will be given to a child in a developing country. See my earlier post.

Toys

No noisy stuff or batteries required. These are learning tools that happen to be fun. They have the added bonus of being fun for adults too.

Rush Hour

Rush Hour

Kids play with this for hours. There’s also a Rush Hour Jr., but my son likes the older version.

Wood Blocks

Wood Blocks

These are great for learning shapes and basic physics. We have 3 sets of these at our house, and that’s the right number to build anything we want to build.

Ball Tilt

Ball Tilt

Combine this with the wood blocks above, and you can build some cool stuff.

Magnets

Magnets

Everybody has probably played with these by now. Avoid Magnetix brand. They have weak magnets. (a reader pointed out that if a kid swallows more than one magnet, don’t wait for them to come out. They need to be removed before they get into the intestines - article).

Legos

Legos

You can never have enough Legos. Not everybody knows that the best deal is to buy them by the pound at Ebay (or better yet - garage sales).

train

Wooden Trains

I took this picture of our living room this morning. When we’re not playing with the track it’s stored in the cedar chest we use for a coffee table. Those little train tables are too limiting for me. Most of the normal track and train cars were bought at garage sales. Some of the bridges were bought at discount stores. We spent less for all of this than a Brio Starter set, which is far too expensive for us. The Kidkraft set I linked to is a decent price if you want to buy new. Ebay can be a good source for these too.

Movable Alphabet

Movable Alphabet

We actually have 5 sets of refrigerator magnets. Montessori starts with lower case letters because we use them the most.

Easel

Easel

This one has paper storage and trays on both sides. Ours doesn’t, and we wish it did. The wife wants to make sure I mention that you should break kid’s pencils in half. The shorter length and lighter weight is easier for kids to manipulate when they are learning to write. It gives them more control. Crayons should be about an inch long to encourage correct grasp.

Guitar

1/2 Size Guitar

This is the one thing on this list our son rarely plays with, but if my wife or I played I’m sure he would. It is the real thing, and it’s a good one for the price.

Games

People are surprised to find out how young kids can play these games (I was, but my wife knew). Our son started playing all of these when he was three and still likes them at five. Young kids need something to lean their cards on because they can’t manage them all in their hands, but they understand the games very early. Our son even played gin rummy at three. We only used the cards 2 through 8, and at first we ignored straights. By four years old was ready for those, too.

Uno

Uno

I think the box says it’s for ages 8 and up, but 3 year olds get it and have a lot of fun. We started out with all of our cards face up to help teach him and because he couldn’t hold his cards. It adds a new dimension to the game.

go fish

Go Fish

Cards with pictures of real fish would be better, but I didn’t see a set like that.

monopoly junior

Monopoly Jr.

The board is half the size of a normal board, and the squares are named for carnival rides and games. Our son used an abacas to help him do the math to make change.

Hi Ho Cherry O

Hi Ho Cherry O

Good for learning number recognition and counting.

blockhead

Blockhead

This is fun for adults. It’s also great for kids to learn about gravity and learn to not be sore losers.

Bikes

We gave our son a bike with 12″ wheels when he turned three. There’s a theory that training wheels do more harm than good: Link. It was true for him. BikeHe was riding within about a month, and never used training wheels. Mysteriously, a month after he figured it out he stopped wanting to ride. A year later he started again. The second time he figured it out without any help from us and still without training wheels.

He outgrew the 12″ bike when the was 4.5, and we bought him a nice 18″ BMX bike at a real bike store (still only $150). Even though he’ll only use it for a couple of years, we want it to stay out of the landfill as long as possible. We also want him to be able to keep up with us. Most kid’s bikes are hard to ride because they have heavy frames and the components are poor. With a lighter bike, instead of just riding in circles on the driveway, our son can ride with us (at a slower pace) for about 5 miles.

Books

Why do authors of children’s books insist on talking animals and nonsense words? Kids have enough to figure out without misleading ideas in books. These teach useful lessons and use realistic characters to tell interesting stories. Some are even true.

Pancakes, Pancakes!

Pancakes, Pancakes!

A boy wants pancakes. His mom says she’s busy, but she’ll tell him where to get the ingredients. He cuts wheat and makes flour. Then he gets eggs from a chicken, milks a cow, and makes butter from cream. Eventually, he makes his pancakes. Great for learning where food comes from, and has a simple recipe for pancakes. All kids really like this book.

Ox Cart Man

Ox Cart Man

This book follows a farmer through his year. After the harvest he takes his crops and the other things they’ve made to town and trades them for tools and supplies his family needs. Good for learning about cycles of life, working hard, and not having more than you need.

Owl Moon

Owl Moon

The story of a kid going owling with his grandfather. Owling is sneaking through the woods in the middle of the night trying to spot an owl.

Fireflies!

Fireflies!

A boy is very excited to catch fireflies for the first time. He takes his jar of fireflies to bed with him, and watches as they start to fall to bottom of the jar and stop lighting up. He has an internal conflict because he doesn’t want to hurt them, but the doesn’t want to let go of his fireflies. Finally, he releases them and watches them light up again.

Stone Soup

Stone Soup

Classic story of two travelers entering a village and asking for food. They are turned away by everyone, so since there is no food in the village, they make their own magic soup out of stones to help. One by one, the villagers volunteer to add vegetables, meat, etc to it, and everyone ends up with a delicious soup.

A Tree is Nice

A Tree is Nice

The title is self explanatory. Teaches the benefits of trees and nature.

In a Nutshell

In a Nutshell

The life cycle of an oak tree. Teaches the importance of trees, respect for life, and just the shear wonder that a huge tree comes from such a small beginning.

bob books

Bob Books

Great for beginning readers. A kid can read the first two books knowing four sounds: s, m, a, and t. The text follows the illustrations closely, and the stories are as amusing as they can be with four letters.

let

Let’s Drive Henry Ford

Any of Peter and Connie Roop’s books. They are interesting stories written at a level a kid can understand, but an adult doesn’t find mind numbing either.

Tools

We avoided plastic toy tools. When our son was about three we started buying him the real thing. Home Depot has small versions (not specifically made for kids) of most basic tools that fit his hands. We spent the time to teach him how to use them correctly and take care of them.

For every birthday and Christmas he gets a couple of new tools. So far he has a kid sized toolbox that’s easy to carry around, hammer, screwdrivers (phillips and straight), pliers, needle nose pliers, wire cutters, a hack saw, and a back saw. The small teeth on the hacksaw make it easier to cut wood. He gets frustrated with the larger teeth on the back saw getting bound up. A vice secured to something solid is important. Little kids can’t hold the wood and do something else at the same time.

Gardening Tools

Gardening Tools

Kid sized. We had a hard time finding 1/2 size tools at stores like Home Depot, but the link goes to a decent set.

Kitchen Equipment

We also started giving our son smaller versions of the same dishes we use when he turned three years old. He has a set of little glass plates, bowls, and cups, and we have a very hard floor - which is perfect. He broke a few dishes (which is what we wanted). He learned early to be careful - and that he has to clean up his own messes.

Children love to help their parents with whatever they are doing. It takes patience to let them (my wife has it. I don’t), but the payoff is big. We have a whole gambit of kid sized cooking and cleaning tools. The ones listed below have been the most popular with our son and his friends.

The Learning Tower

The Learning Tower

It has an adjustable height floor (better than a chair) to get kids up to counter level to help in the kitchen. It also has a railing and enough room for two kids at once. My son only almost fell out head first once. This is one of the best things we ever bought for my son, but it might be a challenge to find a home for it in a small kitchen.

Thermos Water Bottle

Thermos Water Bottle

Does not spill or leak. Keeps things cold forever. Durable.

Nut Cracker

Nut Cracker

This is great for little hands, but it’s pretty cool for adults too. The screw gives a kid plenty of power to crack any nut that will fit in the hole, and let’s them do it on their own. The hole is large enough for an average walnut.

Coffee Grinder

Coffee Grinder

Kid’s love this thing. We pull the kitchen table apart like we’re going to insert another leaf. Then we insert the coffee grinder, and close the table on it to hold it securely. My wife also made a little sign with an arrow that shows which direction to turn it. Whenever I get this out, my son says “I need my sign.”

Cutting Boards

Bamboo Cutting Boards

Little cutting boards that kids can carry and wash themselves.

Serrated Knife

Blunt Serrated Knife

The serrated edge lets them cut just about anything. The blunt tip keeps anybody from getting hurt.

Brooms

Brooms, mops, dust pans

Kids like to help their parents. Especially if they have their own tools. My kid’s favorite toy was a broom for at least a year. His friends love to use it too.

Mellon Baller

Mellon Baller

Hours of fun. If you have more than one kid, you should probably get more than one of these.

Tongs

Tongs

Everybody loves tongs.

Oven Mitts

Oven Mitts

Kid sized.

Hand Mixer

Hand Mixer

Look for metal gears. A lot of the new ones have plastic and are hard to turn, so it’s not much fun for a kid. A good one will turn easily.

More Resources

I’ll make this a permanent page and keep adding to it when I think of something new: /recommendations/toys ages 3-6

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